Most often, the bougie assholes—who grabbed a pen and wrote stuff down & are credited with the copyright and quotation—were just tourists who eavesdropped on the people, didn’t understand what was heard and wrote stuff down incorrectly. The people who own the story, often can’t write and/or can’t get visibly published.
“If you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say anything at all.”
That phrase is often said as a Church Building way to say, “shut up, you’re being rude.”
Working with the punctuation and tone of that phrase completely flips the polarity:
“If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t. Say anything at all.”
Not only should we not shut up if there’s nothing nice to say, we shouldn’t pretend to say something nice if there’s nothing nice to say. If the situation is so awful that there’s nothing nice to say, then anything said is helpful and appropriate.
More soon, much Love,